HEALTH

Talking About Dying: Why Stories Matter

Sun Nov 02 2025

When someone is very sick and nearing the end of their life, doctors and nurses use special words to talk about care. But sometimes, these words can make the experience feel less personal.

On the other hand, books written by people who are sick can help us understand what dying is really like. These books don't have easy answers. They show the messy, emotional side of being very sick.

Two Books That Capture the Reality of Dying

Two books, "When Breath Becomes Air" by Paul Kalanithi and "In Gratitude" by Jenny Diski, do this in different ways.

  • Kalanithi's book mixes medical knowledge with deep thoughts about life and death.
  • Diski's book is more chaotic and doesn't give simple solutions.

Comparing these books to the way doctors talk about care shows a big difference. Doctors focus on goals, but the books show the complicated feelings of patients.

Why This Matters

Reading these books can help doctors and nurses understand their patients better. It can make them more open to different kinds of stories and feelings. This can lead to better care for people who are dying.

It's not about having all the answers. It's about being okay with not knowing and listening to each person's unique experience.

questions

    If dying had a theme song, what would it be and how would it change the narrative?
    What are the ethical implications of using personal narratives in medical education and practice?
    How can palliative care professionals balance clinical goals with the emotional and existential needs of patients?

actions