When Breakups Become a Community Effort

Becca Murray, a well-known TikTok influencer, faced a tough situation after splitting up with her partner of nearly 13 years. They had shared a home for 9 years, so when they decided to part ways, Murray found herself needing to replace a lot of household items. She didn't expect the backlash that came with asking for help. Murray created a divorce registry to replace items like a couch, can opener, and even a camping tent. She wanted to avoid buying temporary replacements for items she had lost. The registry raised over $3, 000, but not everyone was supportive. Some people criticized her for using the term "divorce" and for asking for gifts. In response to the criticism, Murray clarified that the registry was optional and that she used the term "divorce" because it best described the severity of her breakup. She also pointed out that society lacks appropriate language for unmarried partners going through a split. Murray received support from her friend Olivia Howell, who co-founded Fresh Starts Registry. Howell believes that such registries help people rebuild their lives after a breakup. Murray agrees, stating that the criticism might come from people who feel unsupported themselves. Despite the backlash, Murray is glad she accepted help from her community. She admits that asking for help is not easy for her, but the support she received has been heartening. The experience has sparked a larger conversation about how society supports single people and those going through major life transitions.