Living Longer and Better: Secrets from the Wise

Betty Parker, at 96, isn't focused on her age or health issues. She's too busy enjoying life. She spends her days gardening, reading, playing cards, and even baking pies, though she admits she might need to buy a pie next time. Parker's secret? She stays connected and finds purpose in her daily activities. Living longer isn't just about eating well and exercising. It's also about avoiding loneliness and isolation. Dr. Kerry Burnight, a gerontologist and Parker's daughter, emphasizes that enjoying life is just as important as living longer. Dr. John Batsis, a geriatrician, agrees. He wants people to live good years, not just longer ones. Burnight highlights four key factors for a joyful life: growing, connecting, adapting, and giving. These aren't just buzzwords. They're actions that can improve your well-being. And just like physical exercise, you can practice these to strengthen your mental and emotional health. It's never too early or too late to start. If you're still working, think about what you'll do in retirement. Don't wait until you're retired to find hobbies and activities you enjoy. If you're already retired, it's not too late to start something new. Burnight encourages people to lean into their passions, no matter their age. Growing isn't just about doing crossword puzzles. It's about challenging yourself and trying new things. Batsis shares how one of his patients took up golf and guitar after retiring. The key is to find something you enjoy, not just what you think you should do. Social connections are crucial. Parker values her diverse group of friends, including a group of women in their 60s she calls "the youngs. " Burnight suggests diversifying your social circle, just like you would a financial portfolio. Reach out to old friends, connect with neighbors, and be the one to initiate plans. Adapting to change is essential. Parker had to give up tennis and now uses a walker, but she hasn't let that stop her from enjoying life. Burnight emphasizes that embracing change is key to aging well. It's not about denying the challenges, but about responding to them positively. Giving to others can bring joy and purpose. Burnight suggests starting small, like delivering lemons to a friend or offering to watch a neighbor's kids. These small acts can make a big difference in your sense of purpose.